Grief Resources

• On Campus Resources
• Off Campus Resources
• Other Web Sites
• Literature
• Interfaith Grief Memorial

On Campus Resources

1. Office for Religious Life
http://religiouslife.stanford.edu/

The Deans for Religious Life (otherwise known as Stanford's University Chaplains) are available to undergrad and grad students of any religious or non-religious background. Grief often raises questions about values and meanings and people look for ways to express themselves and move through experiences of loss. Please call on us for these conversations and resources if you have lost a loved one, or know a friend who has.

The Rev. Scotty McLennan
mclennan@stanford.edu
723-1762
Unitarian Universalist

Rabbi Patricia Karlin-Neumann
rabbipkn@stanford.edu
725-0010
Jewish

The Rev. Joanne Sanders
joannesanders@stanford.edu
725-0090
Episcopalian

2.Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)
723-3785
http://caps.stanford.edu

As a response to the loss of a loved person, grief is a universal reaction experienced by all of us at some point in our life. The capacity that make us capable of warm satisfying relationships also leaves us vulnerable to sadness, despair, and grief. Sometimes the death of a loved person increases our vulnerability to the point that our emotional, social and spiritual resources are depleted and our capacity to sustain ourselves is diminished. We at CAPS believe that the process of bereavement can be favorably influenced by the support of friends and family, and sometimes counseling.

CAPS offers, without charge, evaluations and brief confidential counseling to any registered student. Grief groups are also offered. CAPS has 24 hour availability for urgent situations.

3. Residence Deans and Graduate Life Office Deans
http://www.stanford.edu/dept/resed/ StudentResources/Contact.html#Dean

Residence Deans and Graduate Life Office Deans offer emotional and practical support to students who are grieving the loss of a loved one. This may take the form of talking things over; contacting professors, advisors, or friends; providing information about taking leave, getting incompletes, etc.; and giving information about other services which are available on campus.

THE BRIDGE
http://www.stanford.edu/group/bridge/
723-3393

The Bridge is a student counseling organization which offers students free peer counseling opportunities twenty-four hours a day. Students are welcomed to drop in or call.

THE HELP CENTER
http://www.stanford.edu/dept/helpcenter
723-4577

The Stanford Help Center
The Help Center provides free professional and confidential counseling services to Stanford University faculty, staff, retirees and their immediate family members, including same sex domestic partners. Assistance is available for a variety of concerns including job stress and burnout, relationship problems, parenting, alcohol and drug abuse, grief, and concerns about elderly loved ones. Counselors make referrals to external professionals for clients who need specialized or long-term help. They are also available to assist with understanding and utilizing the mental health benefits available through the university. The Help Center also provides training and consultation services to departments for issues related to job stress, communication skills, grief and loss in the workplace, and conflict resolution.

The Help Center is staffed by psychologists, licensed clinical social workers, and marriage and family therapists. The group is diverse from the standpoint of age, gender and ethnicity, and a Spanish-speaking counselor is available. The main office is located on campus at 100 Encina Commons, and there are satellite offices at the Medical Center, SLAC and in San Jose. Hours are from 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Monday to Friday. For additional information about the Help Center services and staff, call 650-723-4577 or see: http://www.stanford.edu/dept/helpcenter.

Workshops and Groups

The Office of Religious Life, Office of Residential Education, and Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) offer workshops for students dealing with grief. In these workshops students get an opportunity to further learn about campus resources. They also have the opportunity to share their grief. To find out about the next workshop, you can join the grief mailing list. You can also call Counseling and Psylogical Services, Office of Religious Life or Office of Residential Education.

CAPS also offers grief group that meet weekly for a quarter. To find out dates and times, please call CAPS or join our grief mailing list.

For workshops and groups for staff and faculty, please call the Help Center or join the Grief Mailing List.

Grief Mailing List

If you subscribe to Stanford’s grief list, you will get periodic updates on grief-related events on campus. You will be informed about upcoming workshops, groups and memorial services.

To get on the Grief Mailing List, please follow the directions that follow:

send mail to majordomo@lists.stanford.edu with this in the body of the email:

subscribe grief-group

Honoring Lives, Remembering Losses: An Interfaith Grief Memorial

Honoring Lives, Remembering Losses: An Interfaith Grief Memorial, is open to the whole Stanford community. This coming academic year it will be held in mid-May 2006 in the Round Room adjacent to Memorial Church. Please call the Office for Religious Life for details 723-1762. We will listen to music, light candles in memory of those we love who have died, offer sacred readings on the themes of loss and hope and reflect together upon our losses. Please RSVP with the names of those you are remembering for the Memorial Program to elenay@stanford.edu in the Office for Religious Life.

Off Campus Resources

KARA
321-KARA

KARA is a Palo Alto non-profit, largely volunteer organization which provides emotional support and peer counseling. Their specially trained counselors provide an opportunity for expression of personal feelings to relieve the stress, isolation and confusion associated with grief. Services are free, but a donation is requested.

Other Websites

GRIEF WEB PAGE
http://rivendell.org/

SURVIVORS OF SUICIDE
http://thewebpager.com/sos/

LITERATURE

General Books

Albom, Mitch., (1997). Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man and the Last Great Lesson. ISBN #0385484518.

Gilbert, S. M. (1997). A Wrongful Death: A Memoir. Norton, NY.

Hockenberry, J. (1995). Moving Violations: War Zones, Wheelchairs, & Declarations of Independence. Hyperion, NY.

Johnson, C. J., & Mc Gee, m. G. (Eds.). (1991). How Different Religions View Death and Afterlife.

Lama, Dalai., (1998). The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living. ISBN #1573221112.

Lamm, M . (1972). The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning.

Larson, D. G., (1993). The Helper's Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life Threatening Illness.

Lewis, C. S., (1994). A Grief Observed. ISBN #006065273X.

Rando, T. A. (1986). Grieving: How to go on Living when Someone you Love Dies.

Rinpoche, S. (1992). The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.

Multicultural

Carmichael, E., & Sayer, C., (1992). The Skeleton at the Feast: The day of the Dead in Mexico.

Childs, R. V., & Altman, P. B. (1992). Vive tu Recuerdo: Living traditions in the Mexican days of the Dead.

Echo-Hawk, R. C., & Echo-Hawk, W. R. (1994). Battlefields and Burial Grounds: The Indian Struggle to Protect Ancestral Graves in the United States. Lerner Publications Co., Minneapolis.

Henderson,G. (1999). Our Souls to Keep. Interculltural Press, ME.

Hooks, B. (1993). Sisters of the Yam: Black Women and Self-Recovery. South End Press, Boston, MA.

Stepanchuk, C., & Wong, C. (1991). Mooncakes and hungry Ghosts: Festivals of China. China Books, San Francisco. (Chinese approach to death).

Watson, J. L., & Rawski, E. S. (Eds.). (1990). Death Ritual in late Imperial and Modern China. University of California Press, Berkeley, CA. (Chinese ways with death).

Yarrow, H. C. (1988). North American Indian Burial Customs.