"When we honestly
ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we
often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice,
solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch
our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be
silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay
with us in an hour of grief or bereavement, who can tolerate not
knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of
our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."
Nouwen from "Out of Solitude"